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People are often drawn to Mindful Representations because something rather intriguing can happen when a problem is looked at systemically.
Instead of concentrating only on one person and asking what is happening inside them, we begin looking at the relationships around them. Family members, partners, children, significant events and sometimes people from earlier generations can be represented in space. Patterns that were difficult to see while talking about them can suddenly become much more visible.
This becomes particularly fascinating when we explore transgenerational influences. A loss decades earlier, a migration, a war, an exclusion from the family, an early death or a relationship nobody much talked about may still cast a long shadow. Something we have always thought of as simply our problem can look quite different when we see it in the context of the family and history from which we came.
Then there is the phenomenon of representation itself.
A representative may experience an emotion they did not expect. Someone may feel drawn towards another person, or have a strong impulse to move away. A small change in position can alter the atmosphere of the whole representation. Occasionally something happens that is difficult to explain at all.
This is part of what makes the work so compelling. It also creates one of its central challenges:
How do we remain open to what is happening without becoming too certain, too quickly, about what it means?
That question lies at the heart of working with representatives. Their experience can provide valuable information, but it needs to be held alongside what we can observe, what we already know, what happens elsewhere in the representation and what we ourselves may be bringing to it.
For readers new to the process, [What Happens in a Mindful Representation Workshop?] gives a more basic introduction to the seeker, representatives and holding circle.
Working with representatives involves a continuing movement between noticing, wondering and checking what happens next. As we become more experienced, we begin to recognise patterns. A representative who stands gazing steadily down towards the floor may sometimes lead us to wonder about someone who has died or a grief that has not found its place. Someone gazing into the distance, away from the rest of the family, might raise a question about a country or home they left behind.
These patterns can be enormously useful because they give us hypotheses — places to look next. But that is all they give us. The downward gaze might relate to grief or death, but it might mean something quite different. The person looking into the distance may be longing for a homeland, avoiding the family, wanting to leave, or responding to something we have not yet considered. Experience gives us a richer collection of hypotheses; it does not give us a licence to turn them into facts.
Sitting with uncertainty
Much of this work involves remaining open, present and responsive while we still don’t know exactly what is happening. That can be particularly uncomfortable for professionals. People come to us precisely because they hope we might understand something they cannot yet make sense of themselves, so there is a natural pull towards finding an explanation.
There is another complication. In systemic work, we are rarely looking for the single cause of something anyway. Human systems are networks of influences, each affecting and being affected by the others.
Imagine I am walking along the footpath and trip over a bump. Why did I trip? Because the bump was there? Because I wasn’t looking? Because the person who laid the footpath twenty years ago did a less-than-magnificent job? Perhaps I was distracted by a bird, worrying about something that happened that morning, or simply walking too quickly. Remove any one of several factors and I might have arrived home with my dignity intact.
Families are considerably more complicated than footpaths. Rather than looking for the explanation, systemic thinking asks how a number of relationships, events, histories and responses may be interacting and maintaining what we see now.
There are different ways of escaping the discomfort of not knowing. We can settle on an explanation too quickly and enjoy the relief of feeling that we have understood. Or we can become so worried about being wrong that we hesitate to make any judgement at all. Neither is especially useful. What we need is enough confidence to make reasonable working judgements, together with enough humility to change them when the evidence changes.
Mindfulness becomes surprisingly practical here because uncertainty is not something we experience only in our thoughts. We react to it. We may become anxious, impatient, confused or increasingly hungry for an answer. Noticing those reactions can help us distinguish between becoming more confident because the evidence is accumulating and becoming more certain simply because we are tired of not knowing.
The aim, then, is not to become comfortable with uncertainty in the sense that it no longer bothers us. It is to become more skilful at working while uncertainty is still present: gathering information, forming provisional ideas, testing them and remaining willing to discover that we were wrong.
This tension between knowledge, interpretation and premature certainty is explored from different perspectives in Mindful Presence in Complexity and Wisdom Beyond False Certainty.
That balance matters throughout Mindful Representations. We don’t need certainty before taking the next step. We need enough curiosity to wait when the picture is muddy, enough courage to move when something useful is emerging, and enough humility to change course when the response tells us we were wrong.
LOOK: seeing what is actually there
Once the interview has given us enough to begin, we move from talking about the system to putting it into space.
That shift matters. Relationships that are surprisingly difficult to hold in our heads can become much easier to see when people occupy positions in a room. Distance, orientation, clusters, gaps and exclusions become visible. Someone may stand close to one person while turning away from another. Two people may form a tight pair while somebody else sits marooned on the edge. A family described verbally as “quite close” can look rather more complicated once it has geography.
This is one of the great advantages of representational work: it turns relationships into space. Instead of trying to juggle a complicated network of connections in working memory, we can stand back and look at it.
But looking is not quite as simple as it sounds.
This image is a useful example. When I first saw it, I read something almost aggressive in the way the two representatives were facing one another. Later, I found myself wondering how differently I might respond if I knew they were meeting as part of a reconciliation. The distance between them, their posture and their gaze would be unchanged, but the scene would feel quite different.
It is a simple reminder of how readily observation and interpretation become entangled. Distance, orientation, gaze and movement are things we can observe. The story they seem to tell us is something we bring to them.
The obvious next step is to ask.
A representative might report sadness, irritation, relief, numbness, an urge to turn around, or nothing much at all. Their experience adds another layer of information, but it still needs to be handled carefully.
If I suddenly feel sad while standing in a representation, for example, I can be reasonably confident that sadness is occurring in me. I cannot be nearly so confident about why. Rather than dismissing the feeling or immediately treating it as evidence of some hidden truth, we can become curious. Does it resonate with anything we already know? Does it change when somebody moves? Is anyone else responding similarly? Does it intensify, soften or disappear as the representation develops?
The feeling becomes one piece of information among several. We respect the experience without automatically promoting our explanation of it to truth. This distinction becomes increasingly important when experiences are powerful or insights feel unusually compelling. Crossing the Wisdom Threshold explores the same territory through the Golden Moment: how we can remain open to moments of unusual clarity while keeping them grounded in evidence, reality and humility.
We can then widen the enquiry. What else is happening? Where are the other representatives looking? Has somebody shifted? Is there a pair or cluster we hadn’t noticed? What happens elsewhere when one person moves? Rather than fastening onto the most dramatic feature in the room, we let our attention roam.
Learning to widen the lens
Our attention naturally narrows around whatever seems most interesting. If a representative suddenly becomes tearful, most eyes in the room will go there. That makes sense, but the rest of the representation has not stopped existing while we watch the tears.
Perhaps another representative has quietly turned away. Someone who had been tense has relaxed. The seeker has shifted in their chair. Two people on the other side of the room have somehow moved closer together.
These quieter changes may matter as much as the obvious one.
Systemic observation therefore asks us to keep changing the width of the lens: person → relationship → cluster → whole representation → seeker → back again. We zoom in when something deserves attention and widen out before deciding what it means.
This is where some of the distinctive systemic principles behind Mindful Representations become useful. We may notice questions of belonging and exclusion, generational position, disrupted relationships, unresolved loss or patterns that seem to echo across generations.
For example, a child representative may repeatedly position themselves between two parents who cannot comfortably face one another. That may lead us to wonder whether the child has become caught in an attempt to manage a difficulty that properly belongs between the parents — a position that can be costly for the child and may also make it harder for the parents to address the issue themselves.
A grandparent who remains oddly peripheral may direct our attention further back in the family history. We might wonder whether they are connected with, or identifying with, someone who was excluded, forgotten or insufficiently acknowledged in an earlier generation.
Similarly, a representative may become noticeably more settled when an excluded family member is simply acknowledged. That may suggest an identification with that person, or it may be that the whole representation settles because someone who had been left out has now been given a place.
At other times we may notice similar positions appearing across generations — repeated patterns around loss, separation, responsibility or who carries what for whom. Again, these are not explanations handed to us by the representation. They are systemic possibilities that help us decide where to look next.
Sometimes the lens needs to widen beyond the family itself. War, migration, poverty, discrimination and the social expectations of another time can profoundly shape people’s choices and the families that follow. A relationship that seems puzzling from our present-day perspective may look quite different once we understand something of the world in which those people lived. The challenge is to let that knowledge enlarge our imagination without confusing what we can reasonably imagine with what we actually know. Watching Genealogy Television with New Eyes explores this interplay between family history, imagination and empathy in more depth.
Suppose we know that a grandfather migrated alone after a war and rarely spoke about the country he left. If his representative keeps looking away from the family towards the distance, knowing that history might reasonably make us curious about homesickness, loss or divided belonging.
Rather than deciding that this is what the representative must be experiencing, we can test the possibility. We might bring in a representative for the country of origin and see what happens. Does the grandfather turn towards it? Does he become more settled or more distressed? What changes in the rest of the family? Does somebody else move? And what happens to the seeker sitting in the circle as all of this unfolds?
The historical information has enlarged our imagination and given us a useful hypothesis. The representation then gives us an opportunity to test it. What emerges may support the idea, complicate it or take us somewhere quite different.
Sometimes the most important shift comes not from finding a better explanation, but from widening the field of attention. When we see an individual within the larger story of family, history and relationship, new meanings can emerge — and with them, sometimes unexpected possibilities for resolution.
But these principles are lenses, not verdicts. They help us notice possibilities we might otherwise miss; they do not tell us what must be happening.
A person standing apart from the family might represent exclusion. Or independence. Or grief. Or relief. Or perhaps the room was crowded and that happened to be where they landed. Or it could represent several, or even all, of those things at the same time.
We look first. We ask. We widen the lens. And only then do we begin to wonder.
With practice, this repeated movement between close observation and the wider picture becomes less effortful. We begin to notice not only the loudest signal, but the pattern forming around it.
Human representatives are not the only way of bringing these relationships into view. The same principles of observation, embodied information and provisional interpretation can also be used in individual work.
Using Mindful Representations in Individual Therapy
So far I have described the most familiar form of Mindful Representations: a group representation using human representatives. The same underlying process can also be adapted to individual therapeutic work, although the medium changes the information available.
With floor markers, people and relationships can be given positions in the room without requiring a group of representatives. Their distance, orientation and relationship to one another become visible, giving therapist and seeker a three-dimensional view of the system that conversation alone can struggle to provide.
Both the seeker and the therapist can step onto different markers and notice what changes from that position. A place that looked unremarkable from outside may feel quite different from within it: the body tightens, attention shifts towards one person and away from another, sadness appears, or there is an unexpected impulse to move, or an image or a particular phrase simply appears in the mind. In this way, the therapist can also use their own emotional, bodily and attentional responses as phenomenological information to explore, while holding that information provisionally rather than assuming it tells us what the represented person actually experiences.
Tabletop figures or objects offer another way of bringing the system into view. Placement, orientation, distance, clusters and isolation can be seen at a glance, and moving one figure can alter the shape of the whole configuration. The seeker may respond emotionally or bodily to what they see or to a change in the arrangement.
A skilled practitioner may also imaginatively place themselves in the position of one of the represented people and tune into bodily sensations, emotions or impulses that arise. This can provide phenomenological information worth exploring, but it remains the practitioner’s experience, not privileged access to the absent person’s inner world. Sitting with uncertainty earns its keep here too.
The three forms are therefore related without being identical. Human representatives can report their own experience; floor-marker work allows direct experience from an occupied position; tabletop work combines visuospatial information with the responses it evokes in seeker and practitioner. All three let us see a system rather than merely describe one, and all three can support the same cycle of wondering, testing and watching what happens next.
Moving towards resolution
As the work develops, the emphasis often shifts. Early interventions may help us explore an entanglement or test what seems relevant. Later ones may help acknowledge someone who has been forgotten, give grief a place, restore an appropriate generational relationship or recognise that a parent’s limitations grew from their own history rather than from a simple wish to reject their child.
At this stage we are interested not only in isolated reactions but in the direction of travel. Is the representation becoming more settled or more tangled? Are relationships becoming clearer? Are boundaries finding a more workable shape? Is the seeker still engaged, and does what is emerging connect with the direction they hoped to move towards?
For our purposes here, the important point is that the response of the representatives continues to provide information. An intervention is not validated just because it fits an elegant theory; we watch what actually happens. Does the representation become more settled or more strained? Does something open, clarify or become more complicated? The response becomes part of what informs the next step.
For example, a child representative may have spent much of the representation anxiously oriented towards a distressed parent. Bringing in someone who can support the parent may change more than the parent’s position. The child may breathe out, turn away, move towards the other children or simply look more like a child again. We haven’t “proved” our hypothesis about what was happening. But the change gives us useful information about the direction in which the system may be able to move.
What mindfulness brings to the work
Mindfulness is sometimes treated as a way of settling ourselves before doing the real work. Useful, certainly, but rather like warming up before the match.
In Mindful Representations it has a much bigger job.
The facilitator is part of the information field. We may notice tension in the body, a flash of irritation, an unexpected sadness, an urge to rescue somebody, or a sudden conviction that we know exactly what is happening. Some of these responses may illuminate the work. Others may tell us more about ourselves than anybody else in the room.
Either way, we need to notice them before they quietly take the wheel.
Mindfulness helps us catch these shifts early enough to become curious about them. Rather than automatically acting from an emotion, sensation or thought, we can ask: What is happening in me? Does it belong here? What might it be telling me?
Three mindfulness practices used in Mindful Representations—the Mindful Check-In, Mindful Transition and Organic Body Scan—help develop this capacity. Together they help us notice our emotional and bodily responses, recognise what we may be carrying into the next moment, and become more sensitive to subtle changes as a representation unfolds.
That sensitivity can be useful, but it does not confer special knowledge. A knot in the stomach is not a telegram from the family system. Bodily experience gives us information to notice and hold, not an explanation we are obliged to believe.
The same applies when an image suddenly appears in the mind, a phrase seems to arrive from nowhere, or an unexpected thought about what might be happening pops up. Rather than immediately chasing it down the corridors of explanation, it can be more useful to let it sit for a moment and notice what happens.
Eugene Gendlin, the philosopher and psychotherapist who developed Focusing, used the term felt sense for the body’s often vague, not-yet-fully-verbal sense of a situation. A familiar everyday example may help. You have lost your keys and searched everywhere. Then, quite suddenly, you remember where you put them. Before you have even walked over to check, you know: Of course — that’s where they are. Something in the body releases or settles. That little bodily “yes” is what Gendlin called a felt shift: the bodily shift that comes when something fits the felt sense of a situation.
So when an image or phrase appears during representational work, I am often less interested in immediately working out what it means than in whether it stays present and whether something in the body shifts around it. Does it remain quietly insistent? Does there come a small easing, opening or sense of recognition? Sometimes it deepens. Sometimes it simply fades. Neither response proves anything, but both give us information. Push too hard for an explanation and something subtle can rather quickly disappear into a cerebral thicket.
The fuller mindfulness practices are described separately in The Mindful Check-In and the Mindful Representations training material.
Trauma-Sensitive Practice: Working skilfully with challenge
Mindful Representations can bring people surprisingly close to difficult experiences. Grief, trauma and painful family relationships can suddenly feel very immediate, not only for the seeker but also for representatives and sometimes for people simply watching from the holding circle.
This makes trauma-sensitive practice more than keeping an eye on whoever appears to be at the centre of the action. A facilitator can easily become absorbed in an unfolding representation while the seeker is becoming increasingly activated, a representative is getting lost in a painful role, or someone elsewhere in the room is quietly struggling. The ability to widen and narrow attention, which we have already encountered in mindfulness practice, becomes crucial here. It also helps if the facilitator doesn’t have to be everywhere at once. Participants are encouraged to speak up if they are becoming overloaded themselves, or notice that someone else may be struggling.
Safety begins well before anything difficult happens. Participants are prepared for the possibility that strong or unexpected reactions can arise, sometimes in representatives or observers as well as in the seeker, and are told what being a representative involves and, just as importantly, what it doesn’t. They are there to notice and report their experience, not to act out distress or somehow surrender themselves to a role. They can reduce their involvement, step back or leave the representation altogether.
Paradoxically, knowing there is an exit can make it easier to stay. When people know that the intensity can be adjusted, and that nobody gets extra points for stoically enduring something overwhelming, there is more room to remain curious about what is happening.
There are several simple ways of turning the intensity down without abandoning the representation. If a representative is becoming overwhelmed while facing the person or event associated with the trauma, increasing the physical distance between them can make an immediate difference. Geography matters.
Another possibility is to provide more support. A supportive representative might stand behind the person, perhaps representing a parent or another significant supportive figure, with a hand gently on their back if that feels appropriate and is welcomed. At times the facilitator may provide that steadying presence themselves.
Sometimes the simplest intervention is an ordinary conversation. Chatting with the representative for a moment can help them remember that they are not the person they are representing. They do not have to experience the role at full volume. Representatives can often deliberately step back from the intensity while still remaining sufficiently connected to notice what is happening.
Usually, if the representatives are comfortably within their window of tolerance, people in the holding circle are managing reasonably well too. The seeker needs closer attention. They can become quietly overwhelmed without drawing much attention to themselves, especially when everyone else is absorbed in a representation that appears to be going brilliantly. However interesting the representation has become, attending to an overwhelmed seeker takes priority.
How we finish matters as well. After an emotionally demanding role, moving around, looking at the actual room, reconnecting with your own name and circumstances, and deliberately leaving the represented experience behind can help mark the transition. Deroling doesn’t need to become an elaborate ritual. It is simply a way of saying, in effect, that belonged to the representation; this is me, back here, now.
The same principle underlies what I call Leaning into the Edge: enough challenge for something useful to be encountered, but not so much that curiosity, choice and the capacity to remain present disappear. In representational work, sometimes the skilful movement is towards greater involvement; sometimes it is to slow down, add support or step back.
Trauma-sensitive practice brings us back to something that has run through this whole discussion. What representatives experience matters, but how we respond to that experience matters just as much. We need to take it seriously without being captured by it — whether it appears as grief, bodily sensation, an impulse to move, a vivid image or an apparently compelling insight.
Working with experience without turning it into certainty
Representative experience is one of the most intriguing aspects of this work, and perhaps one of the easiest to overinterpret. An emotion, bodily sensation, impulse or movement may prove highly relevant. It may also have several possible explanations, including some that have little to do with the person being represented.
The task is therefore neither to dismiss representative experience nor to grant it special authority. We observe carefully, ask what the representative is actually experiencing, widen our attention to the rest of the system, bring in what is known about the family and its history, and remain interested in what changes as the work develops.
That is where mindfulness, systemic awareness and historical empathy meet. We can take experience seriously without pretending that we know more than we do. Perhaps the simplest formulation is still the most useful:
We notice first. Then we wonder.
